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Sunday, December 31, 2006

I'm Back!

Bangalore has really changed a lot! I was totally astounded with all the new shopping malls, modern-looking youngsters and north indians. The darker side of Bangalore was like this: heavy traffic jams, noise pollution, air pollution, dust, lots of poor people on pavements and so on. Life has become easier for those living there with a comfortable income of at least 30000 rupees. People spend most of their money for food. Spendings have terribly increased.

A fair amount of money also goes into house rental fees. My cousin who moved to Bangalore with her husband after marriage is paying 6500 rupees for a house with just three small rooms. Ten years ago my parents only paid 1200 rupees for the same kind of house.

Below is the picture of the Forum mall. The theaters there are superb! Even better than Golden Village theaters here in Singapore:

However, amongst all the glam and glitter, all they do is cheating. The prices are unfairly high, just because they are sold in branded malls like Shopper's Stop and Garuda. A chocolate milk shake bought in the food court in Forum is 50 rupees ($2). Whereas, that which is bought in Nilgiri's or somewhere else is only around 16 rupees or so.

I really felt sad for all those poor children begging for money on the streets. India is a place where you can see clear class division. Whereas in Singapore you don't. It takes some time to come to a conclusion whether a girl you see on the road is rich, poor or middle class.

I honestly do not know what's wrong with grown-up men and women, some older and still capable, who beg on the streets. They look fine. They can do some other work to earn money, even if it is little. But all they do is sit or go around the street during every signal waiting and beg for money. People who give money encourage these beggars to remain lazy and retarded even more.

I have more to talk about my trips to Salem, my birthland, and Coimbatore. But I'll do so in my next post. I'm still having jet lag. Just landed in Singapore this morning.

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Tuesday, December 5, 2006

Wtf is this?!

I really like the humourous version of this video. But in reality this is not always true. PMS doesn't occur to every women. It is quite regular in some women but not so much in others. There are also people (like me) who don't even get cramps or PMS-like symptoms. Nonetheless, it is good for men to know about PMS and its symptoms. However, this is not the instructional video for that. Just for fun...

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Saturday, December 2, 2006

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

I took the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator(MBTI) test and i'm qualified as an INTP. I'll provide a brief explanation here and you can go into this site to determine your own personality type. There are 16 types of personalities. And there are 4 caegories. They are:

Extrovert vs Introvert
Sensing vs iNtuitive
Thinker vs Feeler
Judging vs Perceiving

So I identified myself as an INTP. Here is the following description for INTPs:

Rodin's Thinker is introverted. Here these thinkers ponder the apparent chaos of the world in order to extract from it the universal truths and principles that can be counted on. These principles, once extracted, will provide the logical structure on which to build strategies.

They have a finely nuanced ability to analyse situations, find root causes and foresee consequences. They distrust action taken too quickly without the necessary investigation. They are usually levelheaded, objective, impersonal yet intensely involved in problem solving. They are fiercely independent, seeking input and comments from a chosen few. When reporting to others, they need to establish credibility first: their own and that of the person they are reporting to. If the gap in knowledge and expertise is too great and their own proficiency dismissed, belittled or ignored, they will lose interest and motivation.

They are less interested in running the world as they are in understanding it. They are curious and capable of explaining complex political, economic or technological problems, taking great pleasure in explaining all the factors and intricacies. They are rigorous with their thoughts and analysis, choosing the exact words that convey precisely what is meant. They may spend a lot of time defining words, concepts and systems in order to define a problematic solution.

They are armchair detectives, scientists and philosophers, spending most of their time in quiet reflection to ponder truth, and solve mysteries. They may tend to neglect social requirements and responsibilities, finding many relationships to be too superficial to be of much interest.

Not everything that is said here is exactly true in my case. But most of them are. I don't neglect social requirements and responsibilities. I first identified myself with INFP instead of INTP. But the book that i'm reading right now, Do What You Are, explains that this is because i'm in the process of becoming a thinker rather than a feeler. So i'm somewhere in between these two personality types.

I find them very true. Discovering what kind of person you are will help greatly to discover what you want to do in your life. Sometimes this is a difficult process. But one has to do it. I have undertaken a task for fun. I have predicted the personality types for some of my friends here and if you would like to know more on whether they are true, go and check the site that i've given. Haha:)

Kasturi INFJ
Kalpana ISTJ
Sriram INFJ
Suresh ENTP
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Wednesday, November 29, 2006

True Education Is Lost

For the past few days, i've been thinking about the education provided in Singapore to kids nowadays. Especially with regards to my sister. It deeply worries me that we all study for the sake of getting good grades in our exams, and not because we want to study for the fun of it. We also constantly worry about what's in the syllabus and what's not. Not to mention, we are only willing to study what's in the syllabus.

At least, i can agree with the rationale for having a syllabus at different levels of education. We need boundaries and rubrics to guide us in what to study from a broad subject content. But in the actual learning process, i believe that we should study as much as we can, if that subject matter interests us. We shouldn't put a full stop in the process of acquiring knowledge and say "that's not in the syllabus, so i don't need to learn it."

In A Devil's Chaplain, Reflections on Hope, Lies, Science and Love, Richard Dawkins expresses my worries articulately with reference to a book that he constantly quotes from, The Story of a Great Schoolmaster: being a plain account of the life and ideas of Sanderson of Oundle. His essay is titled "The Joy of Living Dangerously: Sanderson of oundle":

"It is not just the joy of childhood that is threatened. It is the joy of true education: of reading for the sake of a wonderful book rather than for an exam; of following up a subject because it is fascinating rather than because it is on a syllabus; of watching a great teacher's eyes light up for sheer love of the subject."

How true this is in Singapore. But it's not only in Singapore. I can say that this is true in many of the countries like India, China, Korea and Japan. Western countries also foster the same education values. True education is lost. The joys of childhood is also lost. Richard Dawkins says here:

"I hear horror stories almost daily of ambitious parents or ambitious schools ruining the joy of childhood. And it starts wretchedly early. A six-year-old boy receives 'counselling' because he is 'worried' that his performance in mathematics is falling behind. A headmistress summons the parents of a little girl to suggest that she should be sent for external tuition. The parents expostulate that it is the school's job to teach the child. Why is she falling behind? She is falling behind, explains the headmistress patiently, because the parents of all the other children in the
class are paying for them to go to external tutors."

The same is happening to my sister. She has to go to tuitions for math and english separately, so that she could 'keep up' with her classmates. I sometimes wonder whether all this training and tutoring really reflects my sister's true hardwork and knowledge in her progress in education. I sometimes wonder for myself too. Because i went to tuition too, until the age of 14, after which i stopped and started studying for myself. My classmates in JC also had private tutors who would help them in their tutorials. So they got their 4 distinctions because they had private tutoring. I am more satisfied with my performance than them, because i got 3 distinctions without having any private tutors.

All the schools here ever care about is ranking. How well is the school ranked depends on the academic performance of the students. Principals fightwith each other if one school loses it's best student to the other school, like divorced parents fighting for the custody of their child. Parents here are also a step more competitive than their children. They set the expectations for their children. They tell the children that they should get such-and-such grades and that they should enter such-and-such school.

I would very much like to imagine a world where there are no examinations and no syllabuses. In a world, where students are given the freedom to choose what subject interests them and excel in it. But such an utopian world will never come about in existence. All we can do is some changes in the education policies here and there and just hope that students are doing what they really want to do, and not what they are told to do.
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Tuesday, November 28, 2006

A Song I Sang

Hey! I was quite free at home and so i did this. Please listen to it. Hope you will like it. It's a song i sang. I recorded it with a karaoke track. I sang the male voice too, in my voice of course. You can listen to more by clicking the link in the sidebar. Thanks!!:)

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Saturday, November 25, 2006


While i was travelling in the train today, i felt like: "When am i going to get down this train? God, pls help me?" Oh my God, i just couldn't stand it. Those Indian guys! Sometimes its Bangla guys. I can't stand them anymore. To think about how they are thinking of me, it is just irritating. I'm so pissed off!

I was travelling alone. Maybe that's why. But can't a girl travel alone nowadays? Maybe i'm exaggerating because they didn't approach me or anything. But sometimes it's really irritating. These guys were standing quite faraway. But they purposely came and stood at the opposite side of the pole near which i was standing. And they were obviously talking about me and making signals. Goddamn it! I wanted to move away but the train was so crowded. I tried my best to ignore them. I even took out my handphone and pretending like talking to my "brother." Can you imagine?

I thought our tamil guys are quite harmless and if tamil girls are in trouble, they will help us. Atleast that is how i view them. But there are certain people, who are quite the opposite; they are the troublemakers.

Once i was in Mustafa centre, by myself and i was looking after my sister, while my mother was shopping nearby. She was looking for some clothes actually. So i was simply standing there and minding my own business, not being interested in all those clothes. Then came these two decent-looking guys. I'm not kidding. They looked decent. From the way they speaked, i understood they were telugu-speakers.

But you know what they did? They followed me around the whole day. And this particular guy, one of the two, kept bumping into me and said sorry for like more than ten times. Hello!! Pls come on man. My parents are with me, goddamn it! And I was not even looking good on that day! I looked tired and all. I was wearing a normal polo t-shirt. Looking pretty normal.

And the other guy was helping him look for me, can you believe it? Some kind of teamwork hah? This other guy looked a bit like Harish Ragavendra, if you know who he is and how he looks like. Pretty decent-looking fellows. But the way they behaved!! I just hated them and the day.

Some of the guys here are categorized by us into un-jacks. Girls are un-jills. by the way. They have a pretty typical appearance. Un-jacks are dark/fair, with spiky hair sometimes coloured, earrings, and wearing chains. Sometimes you can tell them by the way they walk. And un-jills are these girls who are dark/fair, coloured hair, funky dress sometimes with mini-skirt, and can be told from the way they stand and walk. These are just generalizations and stereotyping.

Sometimes, we think that un-jacks and un-jills are bad, indecent people. This is not always true. And sometimes, this is very true. We can't actually say. But when we first look at an Indian, we will categorize them, you see. So that is what i meant by saying that these two guys were decent-looking. By the way, this incident happened a few years ago. They looked like 20-something and i was just 17, i guess! They behaved quite stupidly. I still can't forget that incident and i never will. Well, maybe.
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Friday, November 24, 2006

YEY!! It's over!!

YEY!!! It's over. Exams are over. Sleepless nights are over. And a lot of things are over. I'm glad that i don't have to step into that college again and see all those faces that i don't like. Of course i miss my friends badly. But i think i have more irritating friends than good friends. Haha;)

I guess we'll be going to school once or twice for gym and swimming. And that's because we paid that stupid $40 as sports complex fees from september to december!! One thing that ACJC is so good at, is to collect so-called "donations" and "fees." Everything is $10 for them. From school t-shirts to the book called ACS Story (It contains AC's 120 years of history). I knew that they are a rich school, but this is simply too much.

But who cares about all of that now. It's over. And i'm happy with the way i've written my papers. Although i wasn't that confident that i could definitely get an A as i was when i sat for my O'levels 2 years ago. If papers 1 and 2 were easy, paper 3 turns out to be difficult. Or it's the other way round. So you're never sure how your grades will turn out.

Happy partying and thinking about your futures for all those who have finished your A'levels!! I'm so happy that my parents have become lenient overnight! They let me stay up late at night yesterday. And they're giving me quite a bit of freedom to do my own stuff. No complaining anymore that i have to go and study!! My parents have always been quite reasonable and i have to thank them a lot for supporting me throughout this period of exams. Haha:D
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Wednesday, November 22, 2006

Nice local song

I want to put this song here because 1) i love this song very much, not so much the guy (Shabir) who sang this song and 2) my friends would like it:) So here it is. Singapore's Vasantham Star Shabir's hit album: Alaipayuthe. Hope you guys like it.

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Tuesday, November 21, 2006

Expectations imposed upon women

Society imposes a lot of pressures on both men and women. The society has expections on women. According to them, she must be all or most of the following to be considered as someone worth mentioning:

1) Get good grades when she is in school
2) Be a career woman
3) Get married and have kids
4) Be a good home-maker

I might be generalizing here because not every succesful women in this world today fulfill all or most of the above-mentioned criteria, right? No matter how successful a woman becomes, if she lacks in any of the last three criteria stated above, she is always criticised or sympathised by others.

That is why most of the women judge themselves based on the values imposed by the society. Elizabeth Perle McKenna, author of the book "When Work Doesn't Work Anymore", says it clearly:

"Unbeknownst to me, however, i was judging my life by standards that weren't my standards and coming up woefully short. I had internalized these value systems over the years without knowing it and they measured the same fabric (my life) in completely different and mutually exclusive ways. There was the work standard, which told me that anything less than total devotion to my profession was failure. There were voices of the women's movement that said, 'Don't let us down. You can't drop out. Your're a powerful example. Get in there, hang in there, and change things.'

"Then there was society's measure of womanhood, which told me that the home was my first responsibility and that my child would be an ax murderer if i didn't make him my top priority. Everywhere, i read that if i worked too hard, my marriage would suffer. On paper these might be outdated concepts, but they weren't when i was growing up; they were the operative value systems in creating a definition of a successful woman, I swallowed them whole. The consequence was indigestion in my soul."

And then she says in another page, which i would truly question later on, :

"The goal was to transform that culture [male culture of business and success] so both women and men could have family/personal lives and work. But this is most definitely not the message I heard when I was younger and forming my expectations for my life. Like many of my friends I clearly got the feeling that not only could I do it all, but I should do it all. There was almost a moral imerative: to succeed at everything because we had been given these unprecedented opportunities."

So is there really a need to follow the society's definition of what success is? Let's look at this practically. Every women is geared, or shall we say socially engineered, to think that having a career and then getting married is a must. Nobody questions this value system or even considers it as a possiblity only. In the western society, this might only be partially true. But in the Asian society, i would say that this is mostly true. But i don't have any statistical data to support this claim.

The problem is not that whether we women should follow this value system or not. Nor is there any debate here on whether the above criteria are right or wrong. But what i think is that, we should all follow our own set of beliefs and standards, rather than relying on the society to define what a successful woman should do. Because when we follow our own set of principles, we might find greater satisfaction in both our work lives and personal lives. However, it is not always as easy as it can be said than done.

Elizabeth Perle McKenna puts it cleary:

"We grew up being assessed, evaluated, and graded and our first impulse is to look outside ourselves for a reflection of how we're doing... If you are a genius in stock market, the world compensates you for it. But if your gift is in physical therapy, you tend not to value that as much because you aren't getting rich from it... When we pay the therapist so poorly in comparison, we send the clear message that he or she isn't as valuable to society-that being the head of a corporation is a higher, more worthy aspiration.

"Women know this isn't true. But all too often we live as though it is. Moving from a culturally approved value system to a more personal one seems almost impossible-especially when there are no real role models for us to follow. But if we don't do it, no one is going to do it for us... Until we redefine success and value more broadly to include balance and meaning in our lives, we will stay stuck in careers that ask us to weigh one artificially divided world against another."

Set your own principles and values in your life. Make them your core ideology and make sure you always follow and retain them no matter how much you change your outlook on life. For example, one of my principles is to always follow my interests. I believe that i can't really enjoy doing something unless i have an interest in it, a natural drive. I put this principle in practice, when i chose my subjects in JC and when i chose my CCA (Co-curricular activity) in guitar. While lot's of other people just picked a CCA just for having one for their year-end credits.

Like what McKenna said, you might be really interested in doing physical therapy. But according to society's defintion of success, being a physiotherapist doesn't earn you much money and recognition, compared to being in an executive or managerial position. That shouldn't stop you from redefining your own success. If success is for you to be able to help handicapped people to recover, then follow it. Not to mention, it takes a ton of courage to go against the expectations of the society, and follow your own set of expectations.
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Saturday, November 18, 2006

A Familiar Feeling

Have you ever had that kind of a familiar feeling to a particular place, person or event? You might have never even encountered them before, but you still felt those feelings? Something like deja vu? It happens to a lot of people. Or so they claim.

Actually i don't believe in all those things. But why do i have such feelings? I have been in a lot of situations where i've felt that this has happened before. I feel weird at those times. For example, when i went to Orchard road once, i had that kind of feeling. In my mind i know that a person in orange shirt will walk in this way, and a red car will drive in that way. And the same things will happen! Maybe i'm being paranoid or whatever. But it's true. I've been in those situations a lot.

Two years back, i was really very determined in getting into National Junior College after O'levels. But when i visited the ACJC open house, i felt something very familiar about that place. I felt like i've been there for a long time. I ate my lunch in the college cafeteria and i loved the food there. Then later that night i dreamed about the school and that i was studying there.

But i still had my eye on NJC. I put NJC as my first choice and ACJC as my second choice. Eventhough i had the points to get into NJC, i didn't get a place there because of a lot of competition. I got into ACJC. I really started liking the school after a few months and really felt better for not getting into NJC.

Maybe this event was a chance event and my 'dream' and 'familiarity' have got nothing whatsoever to do with it. But still, such things happen in life i guess. However, it doesn't make any sense. How can you feel something 'familiar' about something or someone you have never encountered before? No matter what, i still don't believe such things can happen.
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Thursday, November 16, 2006

My JC Experience

I have reached the end of my life in Junior College. Well, yes it was a fun time i had in college. Not to mention the new experiences and the meeting of pretty weird people. I had a shock on the first day i went to school. Everyone were talking in English!

For those readers out there, you would be saying right now, duh! I know. In my secondary school, most of my Chinese friends spoke Mandarin and i sometimes spoke to my Indian friends in Tamil. But it was not the case when i went to Junior College (JC). I was quite shocked at how refined their language was. My English language skills improved greatly while i was there.

I met all kinds of weird people in JC too. This was the first time i really met "nerds"! People studied really hard in JC. This was also the first time my so-called friends started to talk behind my back. I soon left these back-stabbing people and moved on. I really started enjoying JC only after the first three months. My best friend Kasturi came to the JC and things started to brighten.

I don't know the real reason until now why some people back-stabbed me. I thought i was generally a nice and friendly person. But this girl in my class said that i gave a don't-come-near-me aura. But looking back at it now, we ended up being great friends.

Well, i'm not supposed to be mentioning it here. I don't know what my friends would think if i do. But still it doesn't matter because they know. It's just that this was also the first time i had a pretty long-lasting crush on someone. Well, it's gone now. Totally! It's not that i hate that guy or something. But it was just a crush. Time to move on in life.

I've learned two important lessons in my JC life. First, it is to not to be complacent about life. I was like that the first time when i came to JC. I took it for granted that i could do well in all my subjects and become a top student in college like i did in my secondary school. But it turned out to be a struggle.

Just think about it. School starts at 7.30am. I have to wake up at 5.45am and leave my house at 6.45am. I catch the train and reach school by 7.20am. School finishes at 4.30pm. Sometimes i have guitar practice sessions from 5 to 7pm. The latest i ever stayed for guitar practice sessions was on the eve of a concert. I stayed in school until 10pm, i think. Then when you reach home at around 8pm, when will you ever have time to study?

These two years was like not enough for the most of us. But we managed to finish the syllabus on time and practice a lot for our exams. Not to mention, the stress of getting good passes in physical fitness tests!

Second thing that i've learned is that this is not the end of my journey. In the beginning of this post, i said that i've reached the end of my life in JC. But it's not the end at all. I think of it as the end of the beginning only. My journey will still continue.

During these holidays, in which i have ample amount of time, I'm going to really assess things in my life that i've taken for granted. Things that i've just accepted as facts/reality, my future plans and so on. I'll blog a lot more frequently too, that's something good. I now will also have a lot of time to read books.

And lot's of shopping too. Haha.. I'm not a money spender when i say i love shopping. Shopping just takes my mind off things. It relieves my stress. I think i've gone to Jurong Point a lot of times while i was sad or just needed a break. And i like shopping alone for most of the times. Friends are an added fun.

Lastly, for Kasturi jaan, HaPpY bIrThDaY!! Haha... All the best for all your future endeavours jaan. Have fun today! And i bet you'll have even more fun after next Thursday!!:)
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Wednesday, November 15, 2006

Low Fertility Rate in Singapore 2

To me, the conundrum of the declining fertility rate in Singapore has largely attracted my attention. It is a very common phenomenon in countries that have attained a high level of development and standard of living.

Alas, there is nothing new in this issue. The causes and consequences of low fertility rate are quite well known that I don’t have to waste time discussing about them. But I read something interesting in
this blog on the low-fertility trap. Just like the poverty trap, countries cannot come out of this low-fertility trap once their fertility rates plummet below 1.5.

The fertility rate in Singapore is 1.24 for now. It might change whenever. Another thing that I’ve learned after reading through the blog is that when the fertility rates have gone so low in some European countries in the 1980s, they have gone up again in the late 1980s. This is due to the decision of women to delay childbearing and then later deciding to have more than one child.

But whatever the Singapore government does, concerning the post-natal policies, it will not work effectively. I’m referring to policies such as more maternity leave, flexibility in working times and so on. While such policies are important, they are simply not enough to convince a typical couple to consider having more than one child.

The government, in my opinion, should focus also on pre-natal policies. The following excerpt from the blog that I’ve read will explain clearly what I want to say:

“Policy could make an impact. Wolfgang Lutz has suggested that we try informing women of the risks involved in postponement(of childbearing), and also make changes in our education system to enable flexibility between being a mom, and say, postgraduate study, or other kinds of career enhancing activities which could be easily combined with the early months and years of parenthood. Housing policy would be another area which could be scrutinised. The interesting thing is that these are pro-natal measures(or pre-natal measures as I say here) which may be effective, but which are not intrusive, since they help people do something they want to do, and don’t try to push them into doing something they otherwise wouldn’t do.”

It all boils down to mindset and individual-choice. The government can change the social and economic policies. But it cannot change people’s mindset, at least in an issue like this. But the government can do something to solve some of the problems and dilemmas that young women, mothers-to-be and mothers face.

Wolfgang Lutz is an Austrian demographer. His hypothesis is that those countries which sustain total fertility rates below 1.5 for any length of time may have fallen into a self-reinforcing low-fertility trap.
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Low Fertility Rate in Singapore 1

The issues of low fertility rate and widening income gap have been fervently discussed in the local newspapers. These issues have really drawn me to the papers and to keep in touch with the updated information, despite the exams taking up most of my time. Finally, I now have the time to discuss and post on issues that I interest me.

This blog was first started with a purpose. Or shall I say, a number of purposes. (1) To discuss some scientific research that has interested me, (2) To talk about things and happenings in my life and (3) To discuss social issues so as to keep in touch with my English.

But as the blog continued to grow in length, width and depth, it has at some times deviated from the above-stated purposes. But it’s alright. This is just a blog, not a news website or something that needs to follow a set of guidelines and purpose.

So coming back to the issue that I wish to write about, after a month-long hiatus. First, there was the issue on the widening of the income gap in Singapore. Because of this and as a solution to this, the government has come up with the rise in the GST from 5% to 7%. GST is short for Goods and Services Tax.

Though it has some economic benefits in general, how will the low-income people cope with such a high tax? I don’t want to discuss about whether the policy implemented by the government is right or wrong here. I don’t have enough knowledge of the economics and hence, if I say something, it would have no basis.

But I was thinking. Is there a connection between this widening of income gap and the low fertility rate in Singapore?

Singaporeans are economically hard-driven and do not even know the true meaning of fun and relaxation. Perhaps, I’m generalizing here. But it’s partially true. Almost everyone here wants to earn a lot of money, buy a condo and own a car. It has become something like a culture.

Then it is not surprising to know that home-ownership in Singapore is 91.7% among the resident owners. The education system in Singapore is also fairly competitive and what every student ever thinks about is results. Amongst all these, there is no wonder why marriage is postponed, in the case of the singles; there is no wonder why childbearing is postponed, in the case of the married couples.

The widening of income gap in Singapore alone is not that significant compared to that in the international level. But still, there is this group of people in Singapore striving to earn a lot of money and upgrade themselves from a 5-room flat to a condominium. Then there is another group of entrepreneurs, constantly accumulating a lot of wealth. The number of millionaires in Singapore is on the rise(1). There is also this group of people struggling to earn enough money to meet the increasing cost of living in Singapore.

The constant drive to accumulate material wealth has caused both the widening income gap and the low fertility rate. I’m not saying that it is the sole cause or whatever. But it has directly or indirectly caused these two conundrums that Singapore is now facing. Of course, I’m not neglecting the other causes.

(1) There are 48,500 millionaires in Singapore. The number of millionaires in Singapore rose at the fastest pace in the world in 2004, according to a report by Cap Gemini & Merrill Lynch & Co. Singapore millionaires rose 22.4 percent to 48,500, the report said.
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Tuesday, October 3, 2006

Soulmate? What nonsense!

I think that stereotyping is something that is inherent in all of us human beings. Such views are spurred on by the things that we observe each and everyday, be it in school, home, internet or tv. We would never know that such a belief has already taken its place in our minds.

"Stereotypes are simple, one-dimensional portrayals of people—usually based on sex, race, religion, profession or age. " This is the defintion offered by a site. However, i think that it also applies to things, events, places and our thoughts.

One such common stupidest belief i always encounter is the idea of 'soul mates'. A belief that there is a person born just for you, a person who is predestined to meet you and to become your life partner. If you ask me, it's all nonsense. First of all, i don't believe in fate and luck. I believe that it is our choices that always determine the outcomes, no matter in what situation that choice is made.

The whole idea of 'soulmate' is stupid, if you ask me. A soulmate is someone who meets all the expectations found in a life partner, according to an individual. But if that is the case, then you might have more than one soulmate for all you know(again, i'm making this comment based on my stereotypical view that marriage occurs only once in a person's life).

Moreover, we as humans are constanly on the move. We change according to time and place. Our moral values might take time to change. But our thoughts, opinions and perceptions are constantly changing. Who or what we are today is different from who or what we were yesterday. Then how can one expect a 'soulmate' to meet the same expectations throughout life without change?

Next, another unspoken belief expressed by a lot of women and others is the view that 'life only begins on the day you say 'i do' on the altar of marriage'. This is another insane belief. What nonsense?! You can say it like this: marriage is a part of our life. But marriage is not equal to 'beginning of life'. Then what am i doing now? Am i not living? (God, i could phrase this better if i can speak in Tamil!).

If you want to look at it biologically, life starts 24 hours after copulation occurs, when the ovum divides into two cells. For some, life begins when they are born. For others (including me), life only begins when we are conscious of what is happening around us. But life begins after marriage? I don't think so.

I seem to be ranting a lot on this issue of marriage, love and so on. This is because i attempted an essay during my mock exam last week, which was 'Do you agree that staying single is becoming an increasingly attractive option in the modern society?' It was quite an iteresting topic and i chose to do it. I'm still contemplating on whether the stand i took sounded logical or not.
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Sunday, October 1, 2006


I had quite a tiring day today, 'cause preparations are going on to get ready to move to our new house. We'll be moving soon next week, and there will be a home-warming first. Today is an auspicious day and so we held the Saraswathi Pooja at our new house. We all had to wake up early today at around 6.00am. What a tiring day!

I'm writing nothing constructive here, all crap. I released a new podcast in podbazaar on Singapore Blogs. I thought people would like it and would go and see these blogs. But so far, i have not gotten any comments from anyone. Maybe, i'm expecting too much. It has only been two days since i released it.

Our GP mock exam last week was horrific. Actually, it was much better than any compre that i have attempted so far. The passage was about horror, horror movies and something about the concept of shock. The writer was discussing about how horror movies satisfy our base instincts and sadistic fantasies. If you ask me, it's all bullshit. I hated that passage.

But the second one was quite okay. It talked about 'shock' and why it has term limits. For example, let's say we see the movie Alien for the first time. We find it shocking and absolutely disgusting at first. But as we go on seeing Alien 2, Alien 3 and so forth, we don't find that image shocking anymore. The author also said that like a picture says a thousand words, it also says a thousand lies. She also brought in some counter points of why some things have a lasting effect on us and therefore have no term limits.

Surprisingly, i had quite a lot of time to write my AQ for this exam. But the thing was, it was quite difficult. How would you talk about how Singapore reacts to horror? I had no points at all to contribute and wrote crap, just for the sake of writing and to meet the requirements of the question. I was also running out of time. I don't understand how the teachers want us to do well in a subject, while at the same time giving us only 1hr30mins to complete the paper. The time is quite insufficient.

This is what i don't like about the education system in Singapore. And there are a lot more. I think i will be able to talk and rant all about it later in another post. I will also probably do a podcast on it.
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Wednesday, September 27, 2006


Having reviewed the apparent inevitability and compensating benefits of aggression in the past, Arthur Woolgar suggests some reasons why aggression may play a much reduced role in the future.
How convincing do you find these reasons, and do you consider the gains would outweigh the losses if aggression ceased to be a central feature of human behaviour?

The author states that increased technological and scientific advancements, sports and competitions and the increasing influence of women, would lead to the reduction of the role played by aggression in the future. Though that may be the case, there are also instances when war and conflict is inevitable.

While scientific developments have satisfied the needs of many people today, equipping them with the means to acquire information and a convenient life-style, it cannot be wholly said that science has resolved the sources of conflict, as stated by the author. He says, ‘…aggression is not the only means through which world population can be controlled. … as well as the ability to increase agricultural productivity on which these people depend’ (lines 57-59). It is true that science has enabled us to increase the amount of limited resources that we have, so as to satisfy the needs of a growing population. For example, through the advent of green revolution, rice production around the globe was increased. In this way, science has solved most of the ‘limited resources’ problem and has prevented countries from waging wars for this sole reason. However, it being a double-edged sword, science has also provided the means to fight and invade other countries more dangerously, strongly and rapidly. Sonar detectors used in the navy, fighter jets that can travel in the speed of about 800km/h and AK-47s, are all weapons that technology has created to wage wars even more cunningly and dangerously, victimizing many innocent civilians. The emerging nuclear weapons threat in the Middle East countries and missile launches in Korea are evidence enough to create concern around the world. Therefore, it is conclusive that because of science, it is highly likely that aggression might play a significant role in the future.

The author’s claim that ‘… women may enable the human race to tame and render harmless the aggressive instinct,’ is flawed. It is true that the virtues of women, such as those stated by Woolgar like ‘…cooperation, care and concern for others,’ might bring about peace and calmness into the environment. For example, more and more women have taken an active participation in the government in certain Middle Eastern countries, which has brought about peace and goodness to the societies. However, the author’s argument is flawed because the aggressive and dominant nature that Man possesses, regardless of gender, is instinctual. Women were present in the past, and so are they today. Yet, there were no instances in the past that showed that women can “tame” men. In fact, it was the other way round. Even now, one cannot say for sure that women influence men in such a way that men would abandon their aggressiveness. Women did not prevent the Iraq war, which was driven by the aggression of men. In fact, with more women climbing the corporate ladder and acquiring managerial positions in the workforce, which is dominated by men, competition and aggressiveness in would only increase. Even in the field of education, research has shown that girls perform much better than boys. As a result, men might start to feel more ambitious to defeat their successful female counterparts in the workforce and schools, in the process being more prone towards aggressiveness.

If aggression ceased to be a central feature of human behaviour, I think that there would be larger gains. I do agree that aggression is a primary motive that fuels the ambition to achieve greater things. When the word ‘aggression’ is associated with positive connotations, it can be viewed as a fervent desire to express one’s individuality, to be someone unique, and to make a stand in the world. In this context, ‘aggression’ is expressed by the author, as something that has enabled to create a number of historical personalities and technological developments. However, the argument posited by the author is lacking in logic. When he says that war and conflict have created many historical personalities and had brought about technological developments, he is implying that war and conflict were necessary motives to ensure the development of countries. While this may be partly true, one cannot have frequent wars within a country to bring about further development. This only sounds more ridiculous. There are other stronger motives for the technological developments and so forth. For example, the need to provide employment for the growing number of populations fuels industrialization and this brings about development. Furthermore, if there were fewer conflicts, the business and tourism sectors would function normally. Fewer competitions among countries would encourage a more harmonious diplomatic relations.

The above is an application question that i wrote for the November 2005 General Paper. I got quite good comments for it from the teacher. I added some new points and kind of like completed the answer. It lacked a lot of points and i think now i would have gotten higher marks for it. I got 3.5/8 because there are two parts fort his question and i only answered the first part of the question. I was lazy to write the conclusion though.
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Monday, September 25, 2006

Evolution of blogs

Today's GP lesson was fruitful and yet wastefull. We had a great discussion about the evolution of blogs and its effects on our Singapore society. I somewhat attempted to answer the question and got a 5 out of 9 marks. I've never gotten above a 2 or a 3. I was quite surprised. But i lacked depth in my analysis and was making a lot of generalisations. At first the two comprehension passages on the democratization of blogging was blur to me. As i read it again today, i understood the arguments of the author. I said wasteful, because our tutor wasted a lot of time ranting and advicing us on how we should approach the question. Whatever she said was good, but she kept on repeating her points again and again. And she keeps emphasising on the length of our AQ (Application Question). I clearly don't understand why. The length doesn't matter, only the quality does. One might have written a lot of crap in that lengthy AQ for all i care.

The AQ had covered largely in the area of how blogging is good and bad for the country in general. It allows for the exchange of ideas between people on an equal footing, it promotes a mature discussion of taboo/controversial topics, it creates a Singaporean Identity as the different races come together and more importantly, it relieves our apathy for politics. On the other hand, blogging can misguide the public and easily influence people since most of the blogs have no basis for whatever they claim. Any content that is racially discriminating can disrupt the racial harmony in our mutli-racial society. The government would certainly never allow for that. However, the AQ could also have included the benefits and problems of blogging to the individual person.

It could also have included the emergence of increased advertising in blogging. A lot of blogs nowadays contains Adsense or something like that. The blogs feature ads that will earn money for the bloggers in a per-click basis. This is a new avenue for the advertisers, as blogging becomes more and more ubiquitous. However, a lot of blogs today give first-hand consumer advice, on what products to buy and so forth. There are blogs that advice on what laptops are suitable for a college going student, or what computer software to purchase. With such advice more easily available, why would people want to click an adsense ad? Or any kind of ad for that matter. We might just as well go search for blogs that offer such advice, if we have the need to buy a certain product and are desperately in need for an advice.

Of course, blogging and other related programmes like the Youtube, Movable Type, Friendster and so on can never replace the mainstream media. While people might spend a lot of their time sitting in front of their computer and reading other people's blogs, they have to turn to the local news channel or BBC/CNN to get latest news reports and live reporting of news. Not that kind of selective reporting that we see in blogs. Blogs might do a good job in reporting, but they also add a certain individual perspective to it. And furthermore, most of the news reported on blogs are not always true or have sufficient evidence to support their claims.

I have realised that my concentration/focus is not that effective as it used to be previously. Last time, when i was in secondary school, i used to do yoga. Not everyday. But as frequently as possible. I loved doing it. I can't do very advanced poses. But just something like the cobra pose, the bridge pose and the chair pose. They might seem to be easy to do. Yes, they are. But they can exhaust you soon enough. Yoga is something that clears your mind and refreshes your body. Mix some meditation with it, and you would feel the difference in just a week.

Look at me. I'm just talking. I'm not doing any of this now. I know that the 'i have no time' excuse is a stupid one. I should at least do the 10-minute meditation to keep my mind in focus. Trust me, those who do it know its effects, the 10-minute meditation is really good. The difference might not be noticeable now. But it really helps. You would start sleeping peacefully, and thinking clearly. You would notice that your breathing has improved. And that your concentration has also improved. I should take my own advice now.
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Saturday, September 23, 2006

I was so DUMB

Yesterday, i published a post, when i was filled with frustration and annoyance. But today, while i feel clear and unconfused, i realise that i had made a lot of mistakes. It was all a misunderstanding between my parents and me. My parents are happy about my results and are just worried whether my results are enough to bring me somewhere worthwhile. They told me that i have all the freedom to choose whatever degree i want to pursue, but to keep an open mind about it. Part of the misunderstanding resulted from me being so dumb. I should have clearly told my parents about everything.

Well, that aside. I'm happy that everything has become normal. I don't feel pressurized now. Family support is something that is very essential at a time like this when you have an important exam to prepare for. But i don't want to take back whatever i said about those other parents who pressurize their children.
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Friday, September 22, 2006

My grades are not worth anything?

I feel really really irritated and frustrated. There actually seems to be no reason at all for me to feel this way. But that is the case. I got my final prelim results today. I got a C5 for General Paper. 3 distinctions and 1 D grade for Physics. Personally, i'm very happy and proud of myself to have achieved 3 distinctions. But i'm very disappointed about my Physics grade. And i know the full reason why i have gotten a bad grade for Physics. But my parents were not happy at all. I feel pressurized by my parents. They asked whether i could get into engineering or medicine course with the grades i got. Now, why would i want to do engineer or medicine? They clearly know that i no more have any interest in those two courses and i've always been focused on some other degree course in Biomedical Sciences. And yet they ask me this question.

When I said that i couldn't because of my physics grade, they said that the 3 distinctions have no value then. That i shouldn't even have gotten that grade. Such narrow-mindedness! They could have atleast scolded me a little and then encouraged me a bit. I would not feel so depressed. They are not being of any help to me when in comes to physics. I should have dropped it last year itself. They treat the prelim results as if this is the final grade that i'm going to use for my university entry. I can understand their wishes and unrealistic expectations. But just because they want me to achieve something like that, it doesn't mean that i should right? I study for myself, for my sake, to satisfy my wishes. Not others'. And i'm sure i'll do better for my actual A'levels.

Anyway, this is the reason why many students today face problems and stress because of parental pressure. I don't know why parents should be so rigid. Most have a view that good exam results equal success in life. And they don't realise that exam results are not important, but it is the way the results are used that gives the students the happiness and satisfaction. A person might get good results, and get into engineering. But it doesn't guarantee his happiness. His happiness and success depends on how he utilises his time spent in that course and his interest in that course. Parents should realise this. They should not impose their ambitions and beliefs into their children. They should be flexible in allowing their children to pursue their interests. Why should it always be engineering or doctor or some other professional course, i simply don't understand.

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My first podcast!

This is the first podcast i published. It's in tamil. And it has nothing important in it. Its just an introduction/test podcast. For my friends...

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Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Another song...

I also love this song which is from Maine pyar kiya. The tune might sound familiar to some people out there.

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Something Something Review

Hello, i'm back with a movie review of Something Something Unakkum Enakkum (ssue). Just thought of doing so. It's not going to be a detailed one. And i won't reveal the plot in case some of you have not seen this movie. The main characters are done by 'Jeyam' Ravi, Trisha,'Chinna Thambi' Prabhu and Bhagyaraj. This movie is worth watching just for the fun of it. The story is good, the songs are fantastic. The movie was a hit in Telugu.

But i had a great disappointment when i was watching the movie half way through. It was a replica of an old hindi movie, 'Maine Pyar Kiya'. It was Salman khan's first movie and the actress was a new face. Maine pyar kiya was my favourite childhood movie. I used to watch it for so many times until the casette was spoiled! I want to watch the movie now too, but couldn't find a renting shop which has the movie. Must go to India i guess. The movie in hindi was so super hit, that it was dubbed in English and Spanish. Even now you can find the songs in Spanish. All the songs in the movie are hit songs. No wonder, the tamil version is also good. Except that there are a few differences here and there in the movie.

If i were to tell the story in two short lines, here is how it goes: An american/london hero falls in love with a village girl. He has to win the heart of the girl's brother to ask her hand in marriage. In the case of the hindi movie it was an american guy, and in the case of the tamil movie it was a london guy. In the hindi movie it was the girl's father and in the tamil movie it is the girl's brother. That is all the difference. But the plot is exactly the same.

The story is so sentimental/emotional. There is the sentiment of romance, sentiment of brother/sister love and so on. The villains totally suck! In this movie, i only enjoyed the comedy and the songs. Half way through the movie, i already knew how the story was going to end, so there was no suspense as far as it concerns me. But i think for those who have never heard of the story and have never seen the hindi movie, would like the suspense. The comedy was also not done by people like vivek or vadivel. It was this telugu guy, i think. Don't know his name. But he was good. The story gets better after the first half. Not like other movies, in which you would not want to sit and watch the other half too because the first half totally sucked. I think one can watch this movie throughout without stopping and forwarding until the end. Of course, i had no choice when watching in the theater. Also, in certain instances in the movie, logic and reasoning failed. I think you will know where and when once you watch the movie.

I have here a song from Maine Pyar Kiya. It is my favourite song. I like the Antakshari song very much. But i couldn't find it in Youtube. In this song, the hero wants the girl to go out with him in the evening. She says, 'You go, i'll come'. But whenever she tries to escape up to the room to get ready to go out with Salman, she meets up with an obstacle. At last she never ends up going out with him.

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Friday, September 15, 2006

Broken heart...broken friendship

It can sometimes be very depressing when you lose the friendship that you held so dear to your heart. And sometimes people will feel anger, anxiety and sadness all at the same time. I was like that too when a good friend of mine broke up her friendship with us and left. It happened so long time ago and why am i writing about it now? Because only now i feel comfortable in expressing my thoughts about the whole episode that happened. Even now i wonder, whether it could have just been some communication misunderstanding. Or was there a strain in our friendship since the start itself.

The most saddest part of the whole thing that happened was that I didn't even know what was happening the whole time. Did someone didn't tell me something deliberately? And why did she accuse me of backstabing her, when i clearly don't remember doing anything very bad like that? And backstabing her on what? Until now, i'm still in the dark. I myself have told her during some instances that i don't like backstabing people. Like talking badly behind their backs to other people and so on. I might do those things in my mind but not openly in front of others. It is not in my habit. And even if i did something wrong unknowingly that has hurt her so much, i want to let her know that i'm ashamed of myself of such behaviour and that i'm sorry. Very sorry. I'm a kind of person who tolerates other people's habits and behaviours and i won't tell anything bad or offensive to hurt them. Being with me for so long, she didn't even understand that.

I thought that she was a nice and fun person to be with. But she turned out to be someone else, whom i couldn't understand. She keeps in contact with my classmates. And i'm glad about that. Anyone could easily get along with her. She is a nice person on the whole. That is what i thought about her and still do so. But i clearly don't understand what's her bloody problem now?

I'm done and through with my rantings. The identity of 'her' is only known to my close friends and 'her'self. I thank God for giving me a friendship that ended up in a failure, because the whole episode has taught me a good lesson. I'll not have such a close friendship with someone, who is entirely in a different wavelength compared to me, in the future. If you know what i mean. Such friendships between two very different people rarely last long, though there are exceptions. It is the friendship between people who are of the same wavelength that lasts quite long. Some out there wouldn't agree with me. A friendship will last long if we commit to keep in touch as long as we could. Once that commitment is lost, no matter how close that friendship once was, it will never be the same again.

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Saturday, September 9, 2006

Steve Irwin

I still couldn't get myself out of the shock from the passing away of Steve Irwin. Today i read two articles in Today newspaper written about him. The first one was a comment written by Joan. She praises Irwin of being a vocal supporter of animal conservation. But she condemns the ways in which these animals are portrayed. She expresses her dislike for the methods used just to bring in good ratings for the show. This is what she says:

Animals are magnificent creations, proud, beautiful and deserving of respect. Man considers himself the superior being but animals do ot kill or attack except for food, to protect their families or as a result of an attack or threat. To force an animal to display these behaviours in front of a camera to thrill those at hoome is criminal, disrespectful and demeaning to these creatures. If the roles were reversed and the animal was in charge, how would we feel if, for example, an animal deliberately tried to separate a human mother and her baby just to see the mother's reaction as she desperately tries to do what is second nature to her?

I kind of agree with her. In the name of sensationalism, some of them don't think about the way the animal is being portrayed to the outside audience. But still, such display attracts audience who would normally rather watch an action movie or something else that is adventurous. And when more people see such programs, in which conservationism is promoted, more will get the message that is really crucial.

Another article about Irwin was a debate on whether to telecast the tape that shows Irwin's last encounter in the Great Barrier Reef. And of course the conclusion reached by the author and the majority of the audience was not to telecast the footage. But the author was concerned about footage being released illegally on the net. I'm sure that in a few days'/weeks'/months' time the tape might be released online. But still hope that will not happen. I would definitely no want to see Irwin die on tape!! I recently saw his programme on 'Steve and Terri Irwin' series. They showed his and his wife's first screen test. At that time, he was so shy and was actually stammering! He has come a long way from that.

I not only like him. There are also others like him. Steve Austins, a snake expert and a photographer, is also another of my favourite. His shows are really nice. I first saw his show on a Monday. In that show he went to India, looking for a king cobra, supposed to be the most dangerous snake on earth. His encounter with the snake was superb! I saw another two or three of his shows, but that was all. I couldn't get the time to see anymore because of stressful school life and so on.

Oh no!! School's going to start on Monday! We are going to get back our prelim results! And i'm going to fail my Physics! I know it. I flunked the paper damn badly. How am I ever going to revise for it and get at least a B for A'levels? I don't want to ruin my perfect score by doing badly only in Physics! Arghh! I'll be glad once A's are over and i don't have to look back at Physics anymore! I've quite made up my mind about the degree i want to do. Let's just see...

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Thursday, September 7, 2006

Scary movie and Irwin!

Oh my God! I did a big mistake and ruined my whole holiday! Well, not my whole holiday, but still... I forgot a little about it now. I watched The Exorcism of Emily Rose on Monday. And I couldn't sleep for three nights peacefully! It's the scariest movie i've ever seen. And i've learned my lesson. Such movies are not meant for people like me who are faint-hearted. Phew! I wanted to see that movie because I love courtroom dramas. I love watching or reading such genre. I saw the movie by rewinding the scary parts, but still i couldn't control my curiosity. I've never had an affinity to such scary movies.

When i was younger, i really couldn't sleep after seeing movies like Alien, Predator, Jurassic park and so on. I would sleep in my parents' room when i've watched those movies. If i slept by myself in my room, the night would be filled with bad dreams. This is such a weak part of me. Horror movies are not at all for me. I should just stick with comedy, action and fantasy, i guess. But Harry Potter didn't affect me at all eventhough the story is quite horrific from the fifth book onwards. I guess i just loved the story and i knew that they were all fictious. But the exorcism is said to be a true story of a girl. I'm not sure how true it is but really it makes you wonder whether there truely are demons or not.

In the movie, there is the spiritual argument and the rational/medical argument. While the prosecution says that the girl was psychotic and epileptic, the other side proves that the girl was really possessed by demons. And i didn't know that humans have two vocal chords! Can we really talk in two voices simultaneously? In the movie, the girl is possessed by 6 demons. They all shout out their names with kind of dual voices. It's so scary. After hearing from me i'm sure some people reading this would want to watch the movie, if you haven't. Well, you've had the warning. I don't know why they have to tell the story as a flashback! There are a lot of girls out there. Why should the demons only possess her? I just don't understand this.

Anyway, after watching the movie, i watched others movies so that i'll forget that movie. I watched Giri, because there was Vadivel comedy in it and another new movie Krrish. The movie is an exact replica of Superman and ET. Gosh, did i mention? i was also very scared of ET! Can you beleive that? Although now i think that ET is kind of cute. I've been watching so many movies during this one-week break from school, so as to relax. Then after going back to school, it'll be hectic, cause i'll be spending everyday revising for my A'levels. Physics is so problematic nowadays! I have to go through electronics, electromagnetic induction, dynamics, kinematics again! I also have do a lot of filing.

There was another shocking news about Steve Irwin. It was all like a dream. i just couldn't beleive the newspaper. But i saw the show in Animal Planet, A Tribute To Steve Irwin, or somehting like that. I really enjoyed his crocodile hunting tactics. He was funny, smart, nature-loving! I have also thought him as a show-off guy once. But i continued to enjoy his shows. He found all the reptiles and animals beautiful, eventhough they were poisonous, scaly and look ugly to me. He admired nature and also taught me to admire nature.

Previously i only like a limited number of animals like dogs, cats and parrots. But i'm liking snakes, chimpanzees, orangutans, leopards and lions. So next time when i go to the zoo, i really want to take photos with the chimps, orangutans and a python! I also loved the pink dolphins in Sentosa! I want to take photos with it the next time i go to Sentosa Palawan beach.
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Monday, September 4, 2006

The Triple Filter Test

In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom.

One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance that ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students called Plato?"

"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test".

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say.

The first Filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not.

Now let's try the second filter, the Filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, even though you're not certain it's true?" The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.

Socrates continued. "You may still pass the test though, because there is a third filter - the Filter of usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really..."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good, nor even Useful, why tell it to me at all?" The man was defeated and ashamed.

This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem.
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Sunday, September 3, 2006

My Artwork

This is a picture I copied from a tamil magazine, years ago. I drew it in paint. Hope it is nice. I spent more than two hours working on it. Anyway, i'm good at 'imitation' drawing. I'll post more of my drawings/sketches of disney princesses soon...
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Friday, September 1, 2006

A random post

Had a good time yesterday, bowling with my secondary school Tamil class friends. I was happy only to a certain extent, though. I didn't like that outing that much. I felt like there was a divide between us, there were obviously two cliques. I didn't like it. But everything went well. I can't say much in here, but i've discussed my feelings with Kasturi.

I was listening to one of Suresh's podcasts again and in it he was explaining why he avoids Indian college-mates/passers by. I was surprised at his views, but at the same time realise that it's true with me too. I mean, i don't avoid them but i would keep a distance from the Indians here. I just find them quite weird. Let me tell about an incident that happened yesterday, Kasturi would know too. As we, a group of Indian girls that is, were walking along the road on the pavement, a vehicle passed by. The driver kept on sounding the horn, we got so irritated. There were a bunch of Indian workers in that vehicle, more than twenty or so people. All were starring at us and smiling, giving that kind of 'signal'. It's called, 'jollu vidurathu' in tamil, right? Aiyo! I hated them. Another vehicle did the same thing as it passed by us.

These people would do anything when they are in a big group. But when alone, they just shut up and keep quiet. I can't believe it. I respect them and the reason why they've come to Singapore and all. But this is simply too much. The Bangal boys are another story. All they do is just stare at anyone, be it an old woman or a young one. Haha... I'm not kidding. Just go to Little India on Saturdays and Sundays, one would just cringe from the numerous stares you get. But I just don't care. I've learned to ignore them a long long time ago. I can survive millions of such stare now. I don't care at all!!

Anyway, I learned a technique that is simply just for fun. Haha... When a guy is walking past you, first look at his eyes and make eye contact with him for a second or two. This is just to let him know that you are looking at him. Then slowly (not so slowly because you're going to walk past him soon) bring your eyes to his shoes/slippers/flip-flops/whatever and stare at it for a while, as if you find it weird or nice. Anything. Then turn away your face from his shoes/slippers/flip-flops/whatever. After he has walked past you, quickly turn behind and look. Make sure he is not turning behind and looking at you too. You will notice that he will be looking down to check his shoes/slippers/flip-flops/whatever!! I found it very funny when i first did it to a middle-aged man. You can do it to a girl too. Go on, try it! Haha...

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I have nothing better to do...

You Are Chocolate Chip Ice Cream

You are kind, popular, and generous.
You tend to be successful at anything you try.
A social butterfly, you are great at entertaining a crowd.

You are most compatible with strawberry ice cream.

You Are Grape

You are bold and a true individual. You are very different and very okay with that.
People know you as a straight shooter. You're very honest, even when the truth hurts.
You are also very grounded and practical. No one is going to sneak anything by you.
People enjoy your fresh approach to life. And it's this honesty that makes you a very innovative person.

Your Love Life Secrets Are

Looking back on your life, you will have a few true loves.

You're a little scarred from your past relationships, but who isn't?

You expect a lot from your lover - you want the full package. You tend to be very picky.

In fights, you are able to walk away and calm down. You are able to weather the storm.

Getting over a break-up doesn't take long. Easy come, easy go.

You've Changed 52% in 10 Years

You've done a good job changing with the times, but deep down, you're still the same person.
You're clothes, job, and friends may have changed some - but it hasn't changed you.

Your Career Personality: Hard-Working, Ethical, and Orderly

Your Ideal Careers:

Business attorney
Financial officer
Hollywood agent
International business person
Police officer
Project manager

You Should Rule Jupiter

Huge and hot, Jupiter is a quickly turning planet with short days and intense gravity.

You are perfect to rule Jupiter, because you are both dominant and kind.
You have great strength and confidence, but you never abuse your power.

You are always right. Even if you make mistakes, you compensate for them... before anyone knows it.
Headstrong and ambitious, you always have a goal in mind. You are optimistic and believe that things will always work out.

You Are: 70% Dog, 30% Cat

You and dogs definitely have a lot in common.
You're both goofy, happy, and content with the small things in life.
However, you're definitely not as needy as the average dog. You need your down time occasionally.

Your Dosha is Pitta

You have a quick mind, a gift for persuasion, and a sharp sense of humor.
You have both the drive and people skills to be a very successful leader.
Argumentative and a bit stubborn, you have been known to be a little too set in your ways.
But while you may be biased toward your own point of view, you are always honest, fair, and ethical.

With friends: You are outgoing and open to anyone who might want to talk to you

In love: You are picky but passionate

To achieve more balance: Be less judgmental of those around you, and take cool walks in the moonlight.

Your Blogging Type Is Thoughtful and Considerate

You're a well liked, though underrated, blogger.
You have a heart of gold, and are likely to blog for a cause.
You're a peaceful blogger - no drama for you!
A good listener and friend, you tend to leave thoughtful comments for others.

Your Five Factor Personality Profile


You have medium extroversion.
You're not the life of the party, but you do show up for the party.
Sometimes you are full of energy and open to new social experiences.
But you also need to hibernate and enjoy your "down time."


You have high conscientiousness.
Intelligent and reliable, you tend to succeed in life.
Most things in your life are organized and planned well.
But you borderline on being a total perfectionist.


You have high agreeableness.
You are easy to get along with, and you value harmony highly.
Helpful and generous, you are willing to compromise with almost anyone.
You give people the benefit of the doubt and don't mind giving someone a second chance.


You have low neuroticism.
You are very emotionally stable and mentally together.
Only the greatest setbacks upset you, and you bounce back quickly.
Overall, you are typically calm and relaxed - making others feel secure.

Openness to experience:

Your openness to new experiences is medium.
You are generally broad minded when it come to new things.
But if something crosses a moral line, there's no way you'll approve of it.
You are suspicious of anything too wacky, though you do still consider creativity a virtue.

Your Love Style is Storge

For you, love and friendship are almost the same thing
And your love tends to be the enduring, long lasting kind.
But sometimes your love is not the most passionate
Leap before you look, and you'll find that fire you crave

Your Five Variable Love Profile

Propensity for Monogamy:

Your propensity for monogamy is high.
You find it easy to be devoted and loyal to one person.
And in return, you expect the same from who you love.
Any sign of straying, and you'll end things.

Experience Level:

Your experience level is low.
You've probably either had only one relationship..
Or all of your relationships have been very similar.
You still have a lot to learn... and a lot to try!


Your dominance is low.
This doesn't mean you're a doormat, just balanced.
You know a relationship is not about getting your way.
And you love to give your sweetie a lot of freedom.


Your cynicism is medium.
You'd like to believe in true and everlasting love...
But you've definitely been burned enough to know better.
You're still an optimist, but you also are a realist.


Your independence is medium.
In relationships, you need both "me time" and "we time."
You usually find it easy to be part of a couple.
But occasionally you start to feel a little smothered.

Your Italian Name Is...

Imelda Bruno

The Keys to Your Heart

You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.

In love, you feel the most alive when your lover is creative and never lets you feel bored.

You'd like to your lover to think you are loyal and faithful... that you'll never change.

You would be forced to break up with someone who was insecure and in constant need of reassurance.

Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.

Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.

You think of marriage something you've always wanted... though you haven't really thought about it.

In this moment, you think of love as commitment. Love only works when both people are totally devoted.
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Tuesday, August 29, 2006

A Polygamous Singapore?! No way...

Recently, in the Straits Times, a man named Ong Kean Hin, wrote about legalising polygamy as a solution to boost birth rates. I was so shocked by that news! Oh my goodness! And i was later happy to see that a lot of people were not at all treating the suggestion seriously. There were a lot of comments givne in forums and newspaper, which were very sarcastic.

One said:

"What an audacious suggestion. In that same sentiment, let women also have two spouses (better still, one in every port!) so she can carry children of every culture and create our own version of the United Nations. Talk about globalisation taking on a new meaning!"

Ong Kean Hin suggested this: "1 S'pore wife + 1 foreign wife = more babies" And so there was a comment posted by this lady from the foreign wife's perspective:

"The writer's proposal is based on the assumption that the foreign wife will be meek and submissive. As a woman, I am not convinced that this is a win-win proposal. In fact, I foresee more marital problems in such a polygamous household, due to the uneven distribution of responsibility."

When you look at the forums of some JCs that discuss this issue, you would be surprised at the level of sarcasm expressed. Let's see...

"Now, let me develop the idea 1 step further: what if we combine the 2 concepts (discussed above) together? ie not only lift the restriction of 1 man-1 woman in a marriage, but also the restriction that there can only be 1 man or woman in a polygamous marriage! Then you end up with several men-several women in a single marriage! Hmm ...... sounds like a legalised sex cult, doesn't it? :-)"

"First Polygamy.
Second Multiple Combination.
Third, Dogs and Cats can inherit wealth.
How about 19 men married 4 rich Cats.
23 women married 8 rich dogs.
Then they married each other.
(19m + 4c) + (23w + 8D)
Who is next?"

"But it'll be chaotic.
Who knows who your father is?
A family tree is impossible.
Not to ention:
It's a question but i seriously do not think polygamy will work if combined."

What else? You would be shocked. Mr Lee Kuan Yew himself suggested polygamy as a solution in his speech in 1986.:

"In closing, he addressed the issue of the dangerously declining birth rate and he suggested that it was erroneous to follow the West in being monogamous and a shift has to be made to steer Singapore away from the disastrous consequences ahead. He recommended polygamy as the solution, for correcting the declining birth rate, for dealing with the problem of the increasing number of unmarried women, for nation building and more..."

I know that there are countries in which polygamy is legalised. Even in the history, and religious texts polygamy was present. Sources state that even Jesus himself was polygamous. Pandava brothers also had only one wife. But recommending polygamy in such a conservative society like Singapore is a bit far-fetched. The whole concept is something that wants to enslave women. I mean, no women would want to be dominated by a man and the reverse is also true. By reverse, i mean that no men would want to be dominated by a woman. Dividing the roles of women into two, like one for having the babies and the other for earning the money, is simply not realistic. The other proposal in terms of the women, one husband for looking after the baby and the other to bring home the bacon, is also stupid. But i think that there is nothing wrong in polygamy if everyone in the family have equal roles and are happy to live in that way. The views expressed above are just a bit twisted.

Anyway, i'm so happy today that exams are finally over. Now i can relax for a while. Went out with my best friends today and had pizza! It was good but not like pizza hut. Then later we had Kesari. What a combination! Pizza with Kesari as a desert. Superb!!:)

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